WE definitely don’t put enough emphasis today on talking.
That’s not the texting variety – although it’s all communication and a positive – but the face-to-face or even on the phone variety. Technology makes it so that individuals don’t even need to communicate directly in the same office but can send emails, texts, What’s App them or whatever.
Many younger people never have direct conversations if they can avoid them, relying solely on phone messaging or even dispense with words and make do with Instagram pictures or emojis.
Surely, though, there is absolutely no substitute for looking someone in the eye when you speak to them?
You gain an idea of their true emotions, understand their meaning and can listen, empathise or argue as the conversation demands. We remain articulate and use our brains properly – and the interaction with another human being makes a vital connection that helps prevent us becoming isolated.
As a journalist, I know that face-to-face interviews always yield more and go better than phone interviews. I’ve interviewed many people on the phone from necessity, including plenty of celebrities, and the resulting interviews are never as good as speaking to them in the flesh.
People often speak with their hands, emphasising individual words. Their eyes are expressive, their faces move and you can better understand the meaning behind their statements.
That method also shows them as human beings. Do they keep eye contact with you? Are their smiles genuine, giving veracity to their words?
Talking this way with other individuals creates a connection that phone calls, texting or emails never will. We learn about each other from this human contact and we pick up on traits that we like and perhaps don’t like.
But, the reality is that we know them better this way – and they know us.